Surviving Christmas as a Mother in 2025

Don't get me wrong - Christmas is a joyful time. Living on an island in the Balearics means Christmas delivers me home to my family and makes me feel a sense of support and happiness that I miss during the rest of the year. The children's faces when they are seeing grandparents or playing with cousins is truly priceless.

Having said that, there is a pressure that comes with being a grown up at Christmas. You are the magic. That is a lot to hold. The planning of getting the christmas gifts just right and the timing of who you are seeing when. Not to mention the elf on the shelf ( I love and hate in equal measure! )

For many mothers, it also brings a unique set of challenges. Between managing the household, entertaining relatives, and remembering the To-Do lists. The stress can quickly take over. If you are overstimulated (the lights, the noise, the clutter and the constant being needed) Christmas can feel like a time of anxiety and panic attacks rather than a nice calm christmas card of cheer.

If you are staying put or travelling for Christmas, if you are managing everything solo or if you are batting off opinions of relatives, read on for some practical ways to set boundaries and prioritize your mental health helping you enjoy a calmer, more fulfilling holiday season.

Setting Boundaries to Protect Your Peace

It is easier said than done, but if you know what you can and can't deal with - you can expect an easier ride. Take out the emotion and make a set of rules.

Relatives (more often than not) mean well, but their advice can sometimes feel like pressure or criticism. Especially if you have a different approach to parenting than they did. Setting clear boundaries is a great way to ensure a smoother ride. This doesnt necesarily mean you have to sit your Auntie Karen down for a serious chat about her unsolicited advice. It can mean setting boundaries with yourself. Come up with a list of what is and isnt ok for you. Are there some things that get on your nerves but maybe you can learn to let them go.... don't sweat the small stuff.

Recognize your limits; what you can realistically handle. You don’t have to say yes to every invitation request or suggestion.

Dont lose your head!

If you are under fire from family members with advice or opinions that dont work for you, remember they are most likely trying to help. Take a breath and be kind but firm. Most peoiple will understand a "Thanks but no thanks" approach.

Delegate when possible & dont stand in your own way!

Use the time to take advantage of the presence of people wanting to help. Chances are the grandparents are just as excited to spend time with your minis as you are for a break. So enjoy it. Ask for help, let them take the kids for a walk, make their breakfast or get them dressed. Accept the support where you can and try not to worry too much about their differemt rules or ideas.

Dont be a helicopter parent. Hovering over others while they look after or play with your kids is completely defeating the object of letting them take over so you can take a break. Changing up the rules of whats normally allowed for a day or two is not going to destroy how you do things. Explain to your kids they are on christmas holidays and this is how things work with XYZ family member, but when you are back home we go back to normal rules.

Prioritizing your own mental health

Mothers often put everyone else’s needs first, especially during Christmas. Taking time for yourself is not selfish—it’s necessary to maintain your energy and overall attitude; giving you a break is in everyones best interest!

Schedule “Me Time”

Block out short periods each day for activities that recharge you, such as taking a walk. It doesnt have to be a trip to the spa, but something that allows you to take a breath and recharge.

Let go of perfectionism

You don’t have to do everything perfectly. Instagram has given us a lot to live up to with matching outfits beautiful tablescapes and incredible homemade feasts. Pick what matters to you and what you fine enjoyable- not stressful - loose the rest. Its not important!

And try to limit your screen time - comparison is the theif of joy!

Get those kids involved!

Children LOVE a job. Give them some age approporiatetasks to help lighten your load. It can also make for some fun activities.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness techniques like deep breathing or meditation can help you stay grounded amid the chaos. I know it's not always that easy to fit in to the days- but even a stop and breathe afew times a day helps.

Connect with Other Mothers

Sharing experiences with other mums can provide support and reduce feelings of isolation. Consider joining a local group or online community.

Final Thoughts on Enjoying Christmas as a Mother

Christmas should be a time of joy and connection, not stress and exhaustion. By setting boundaries with relatives and prioritizing your self, you can create a holiday season that feels manageable and meaningful. Remember, your well-being matters just as much as everyone else’s. Taking care of yourself helps you be the best version of yourself for your family.

Try implementing one or two of these strategies this year and notice how your experience changes. You deserve a Christmas filled with peace and happiness.

Happy Christmas mamas - and good luck!

Lou x