When the Party Ends & the Parenting begins : Motherhood; the next adventure

Some girls dream of motherhood.

Others were dreaming of festivals, faraway places, or their next big idea. Individuality, freedom and excitement were the drivers of their lives. Until that day when they woke up and realised - they wanted a baby.

If you were someone who lived for connection, spontaneity, freedom, or pushing boundaries, you might find that Motherhood is way more difficult than you assumed it would be.

So far life has been a success- everything you put your mind to - you nail it! If you want something, you know just how to work your way up to getting it. You were in control.

When you live a fast, non conventional life - you are used to being in control. The decision maker of each twist & turn. If there is one thing that motherhood teaches you, its that you can't always be in control. And that can be hard to swallow, and adjust to.

It can leave you feeling lost, alone, and disconnected. Grieving for the days of freedom.

This doesn’t mean you love your children any less. It just means the transition hit differently.

The ‘Party Girl Parent’ concept, Isn’t One Type of Mother — But a Certain Kind of Spirit

This isn’t about judging anyone’s journey into motherhood. It’s about recognising that for some, the shift feels seismic. The Party Girl Parent, isnt just someone who lived for the weekends and spent her nights on the dancefloor, it is a mindset of women who have a tendency to prefer adventure. To take risks and make bold decisions.

You might be someone who:

• Craved freedom and unpredictability

• Thrived in late-night chats, spontaneous trips, or deep creative flow

• Felt most yourself when you were breaking rules or chasing a new idea

• Found fulfilment in connection, energy, and expression

  
  

Maybe you were the traveller, the performer, the free spirit, the late-night philosopher. And then came nappies, tantrums, early mornings and broken sleep and that strange sense that the version of you who once felt fully alive… is nowhere to be found. It can feel like you are trapped in a beautiful place. But that feeling of having your wings clipped can leave you lacking.

When You Feel Like a Stranger to Yourself

If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought, I don’t recognise myself anymore, you’re not alone.

You haven’t failed.You’re not ‘too much’ — and you’re definitely not the only one.

Some women glide into motherhood. Others grow into it slowly, and that’s okay too.

But here’s the thing: the old version of you doesn’t have to disappear completely. She’s evolving — that is part of matrescence. It is more about changing the actions but keeping the same spirit. That girl got you this far and for sure you will take parts of her forward with you, but its about knowing which parts fit into this new life and which you leave at the door.

You Haven’t Lost Yourself — You’ve Just Outgrown the Old Version

This isn’t about going back. It’s about moving forward, with clarity and confidence.

If you’ve ever felt like a contradiction…Like a rebel in a gentle role…Like you love being with your babies, but you also crave time away to focus on other things.

You’re not alone. And it doesnt have to be a continuous life long internal fight with yourself. You’re just getting started.

Ready to meet the new you?

I offer 1:1 matrescence coaching for mothers who are navigating this very shift. Book a free discovery call HERE — let’s talk about what’s really going on beneath the surface, and what life could feel like when you are back in the picture.